Tuesday, December 13, 2011

Fight

Heeeeeyyyy.   I've been putting out a growing number of posts that sort of don't come to anything.  This blog is sometimes my pondering post.  Hope you don't mind.  Hope it gives you something to chew on, yourself.


The pondering of this morning:  Is “fight” a good or necessary quality in a person?

Although I asked the question and I want to explore it, my quick answer is “no.”  I think “fight” is a result of thinking you have to give extra attention and energy to a task or a cause because you think it’s the only way to get what you want.  A fighter thinks if they don’t “fight” they will be lost or left behind, or that they won't achieve their goals.  Impatience probably has something to do with it.  When you fight, you force stuff because you don't want to wait, or because you think time will steal the opportunity.  Forced stuff, however, is kinda false, and when things are false, they end up being… wrong.  And then you waste a lot of time on something that never woulda happened in the first place if not for the “fight.”  That’s not all, of course…

"Fight" is generally looked at as a good thing because many times it facilitates success, and success, our parents say, is necessary and good.  Sometimes things go to the person who “wants it more.”  So the attitude (fight) is confused with the desired outcome (success).  The person who wants it more may indeed more often than not be the victor, but it isn't necessarily because of the fight.  Maybe it is, many times, but it doesn’t have to be.  The thing is that fight is easier to achieve than calm… true calm.  We fiery humans with our hot heads and emotions get to the fight easier because it's the result of a process of falling apart.  Entropy just happens.  It's easier.  It’s the path of least resistance.  It takes work to balance one’s self.  Except, peace and balance are supposed to come as a result of complete surrender, which seems to conflict with my path of least resistance theory.  Surrender sounds like an act of no effort, but it certainly is not.  It takes a lot of understanding and letting go, which is sometimes harder than taking-up and often harder, or at least less naturally arrived at, than fighting back.     

I do think, however, that the opposite of “fight,” mediocrity and a sense of settling, are disturbingly prevalent in the world and in people’s lives.  This is because people lack faith in the idea that they will be taken care of, that they can achieve their dreams, that their choices are important in the grand scheme of things, and/or because they are afraid of something, most often, of failure of some kind… so “fight” is kinda the opposite of that, which is definitely the more desirable state in my opinion, but both are tipping the scales.  The scales are best when they are balanced, so what’s in the middle?  (It’s like past present and future… to be present is best.  In the middle.  Sort of.  Depends on how you see time.  Is the present in the middle?  Most probably not, but I’ll keep that since in our usual lives our tendency is to place the present on a line between the past and future.  In the middle.  Anyway… )  Some kind of peace is in the middle.  It’s not apathetic and it’s not over zealous.  It’s faithful and content.  It’s also rare.

How would a person operate who functions in that peaceful place between apathy and fight?  I think they would love what they do, and themselves, and they would be excited about their work, but they would not act based on the drive to achieve.  Achievements are ends.  Ends fuel the "fight" and are desired because people think when ends are achieved, they will bring peace and contentment.  The achiever will finally, finally have arrived.  They will put an end to the constant desire and fight for more.  But ends aren’t the point, and if you’ve achieved enough of these ends, you know they don’t change anything, at least not for long.  They don’t fill that emptiness or bring the kind of peace that only being present can bring.  It’s the journey that matters to a peaceful person, so the sayings go.  No matter what you achieve, time doesn’t stop.  The journey goes on.  May as well give each of those moments, too, the attention they deserve, not fighting or sitting back watching, but experiencing and honoring the moments we get.


From Japan,
Tiffany

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